Category: Rational Living Therapy

  • If Everyone Likes You, You Do Not Know Very Many People

    If Everyone Likes You, You Do Not Know Very Many People

    By Dr, Aldo Pucci

    People often act as if they believe they have a need to be liked. They demonstrate that belief by making themselves miserable when someone does not like them or when someone has something negative to say about them. While being liked might be needed for some specific purpose (like to win a popularity contest), our survival obviously does not depend on it.

    Furthermore, often times not being liked is not even a problem for us, we only think that it is. For example, if someone dislikes me who is irrelevant to my life and my goals, their disliking me is not even a problem for me let alone something that is horrible or catastrophic. So if it is not a problem, there is not much point to even spend much time thinking about their disapproval. Who cares? It is irrelevant.

    But people have been brainwashed into thinking that they must have everyone’s approval and that it is a catastrophe if someone does not. It’s time to get over that nonsense. Some people matter much more to you than others do. Some people, if they acted on their negative opinions of you, will have a greater impact on your life and your goals. But even with that, there is no need to make yourself miserable over the results of their acting on their opinions, if they do.

  • Bridging the Gap: How CBT and Behaviour Cards Empower Individuals with Autism

    Bridging the Gap: How CBT and Behaviour Cards Empower Individuals with Autism

    Bridging the Gap: How CBT and Behaviour Cards Empower Individuals with Autism

    Introduction

    Navigating the world can be a complex journey for anyone, but for individuals on the autism spectrum, it often presents a unique set of challenges. Beyond the core characteristics of autism itself, many autistic children and adolescents frequently experience co-occurring mental health conditions like anxiety, panic attacks, and depression. These additional struggles can significantly impact their well-being and daily functioning. Fortunately, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) has emerged as a powerful and adaptable therapeutic approach to help address these issues. When tailored to meet the specific learning and communication styles of autistic individuals, CBT, often enhanced by practical visual tools such as behaviour cards, provides a structured pathway to understanding and managing challenging thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. This article delves deeper into how CBT is applied to treat these conditions and the vital role that behaviour cards play in empowering autistic youth. For individuals on the autism spectrum, navigating the complexities of social interactions, emotional regulation, and unexpected changes can often lead to significant challenges. While autism is a neurodevelopmental condition, not a mental illness, people with autism are at a higher risk of experiencing co-occurring mental health conditions like anxiety, depression, and obsessive-compulsive disorder. This is where Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) steps in, often enhanced by practical tools like “behaviour cards,” to provide valuable support.

    Understanding Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

    CBT is a widely recognized and evidence-based psychotherapy that focuses on the interconnectedness of thoughts, feelings, and behaviors. The core principle is that by identifying and changing unhelpful thinking patterns (cognitions) and maladaptive behaviors, individuals can improve their emotional state and overall well-being.

    For autistic individuals, CBT is typically adapted to accommodate their unique cognitive styles and communication preferences. Traditional “talk therapy” approaches might be less effective for someone who processes information visually or struggles with abstract concepts. Therefore, CBT for autism often incorporates:

    1. Visual Aids: Charts, diagrams, social stories, and visual schedules help illustrate concepts and sequences.
    2. Structured Sessions: A clear, predictable format minimizes anxiety and helps maintain focus.
    3. Concrete Examples: Abstract ideas are broken down into specific, tangible situations.
    4. Special Interests: Incorporating a person’s specific interests can enhance engagement and motivation.
    5. Focus on Skills: Emphasis is placed on teaching practical coping strategies and problem-solving skills.

    CBT has shown promise in helping autistic individuals manage anxiety, improve social skills, regulate emotions, and address rigid thinking patterns. It empowers them to better understand their internal experiences and develop healthier responses to challenging situations.

    The Role of Behaviour Cards

    Behaviour cards, also known as cue cards, visual reminders, or social prompts, are highly effective visual supports that complement CBT principles for individuals with autism. They serve as a bridge between abstract therapeutic concepts and concrete, actionable steps.

    Here’s how behaviour cards contribute:

    1. Visual Reinforcement: Many autistic individuals are strong visual learners. Behaviour cards provide clear, concise visual cues that reinforce desired behaviors or strategies learned in CBT. For example, a card showing a calming technique (like deep breathing) can be a quick reminder during a stressful moment.
    2. Non-Verbal Communication: In situations where verbal communication is difficult or overwhelming, behaviour cards offer a non-verbal way to prompt a desired action or remind an individual of a social rule. A card with a “quiet voice” image can be shown discreetly in a noisy environment.
    3. Promoting Independence: By providing a tangible reference, behaviour cards help individuals internalize strategies and use them independently. Instead of relying solely on verbal prompts from others, they can consult their cards.
    4. Managing Transitions and Unexpected Changes: Cards depicting a sequence of activities or offering options for coping with change can reduce anxiety during transitions, a common challenge for many autistic individuals.
    5. Emotional Regulation: Some behaviour cards are designed to help individuals identify and manage their emotions. These might include a “feelings scale” or cards illustrating different emotions and corresponding coping strategies.
    6. Social Skills Development: Cards can illustrate expected social behaviours in various situations, such as taking turns, making eye contact, or understanding personal space. They act as visual scripts for social interactions.
    7. Token Systems: In some adapted CBT approaches, behaviour cards are used as part of a token system, where individuals earn cards as rewards for practicing new skills or managing challenging thoughts. This provides tangible reinforcement for progress.

    Practical Examples of Behaviour Cards in Use:

    1. “Break Card”: An individual feeling overwhelmed can present this card to request a break from a demanding situation.
    2. “Calm Body Card”: Visuals showing a relaxed posture or deep breaths to remind an individual to self-regulate.
    3. “First/Then Card”: “First [task to do], then [reward/preferred activity]” helps structure activities and motivate completion of less favored tasks.
    4. “Expected/Unexpected Behavior Cards”: These cards can depict different social scenarios and prompt discussions about what behavior is expected or unexpected in that context.
    5. “Thought Challenge Cards”: For older individuals, cards might present common cognitive distortions (e.g., “all-or-nothing thinking”) and prompts for reframing those thoughts.

    Conclusion

    CBT, with its emphasis on understanding the link between thoughts, feelings, and behaviors, offers a powerful framework for supporting individuals with autism. When skillfully adapted to leverage visual strengths and provide concrete tools, it can significantly improve emotional well-being and adaptive functioning. Behaviour cards serve as invaluable practical complements, translating abstract CBT concepts into accessible, actionable visual cues that empower individuals with autism to navigate their world with greater confidence and independence. As research continues to refine therapeutic approaches, the integration of such practical, visually-driven tools will remain a cornerstone of effective support for the autistic community.

    Suggested Bibliography and Key Resources for CBT, Autism, and Mental Health

    This bibliography is illustrative and represents the types of sources that would support the information presented. For a definitive academic paper, specific editions, page numbers, and publication details would be required.

    Key Researchers and Clinical Experts:

    1. Tony Attwood: A leading clinical psychologist specializing in autism spectrum disorder, particularly high-functioning autism and Asperger’s Syndrome. His work often discusses emotional regulation, anxiety, and social skills in autistic individuals. He has written extensively on CBT adaptations.
    2. Susan White: Known for her research on anxiety and CBT in autistic adolescents, often exploring evidence-based interventions.
    3. Judy Reaven: A prominent researcher focusing on anxiety in children and adolescents with autism spectrum disorder, and developing and testing CBT interventions.
    4. Jessica Kingsley Publishers (JKP): This publisher has a vast catalog of books on autism, including many practical guides and clinical manuals on CBT for autistic individuals. Many respected authors publish through JKP.
    5. Michelle Garcia Winner: Developer of the Social Thinking Methodology, which, while not strictly CBT, often complements CBT by providing frameworks for understanding social nuances that contribute to social anxiety in autistic individuals.

    Foundational Texts and Clinical Manuals (Types of Resources):

    1. Manuals for Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Anxiety in Children and Adolescents (adapted for ASD): Look for texts specifically outlining CBT protocols for anxiety disorders (e.g., Generalized Anxiety Disorder, Social Anxiety Disorder, Panic Disorder) that have been adapted for children and adolescents with autism.
    2. Example type: “Coping Cat” program adaptations for ASD.
    3. Example type: “Facing Your Fears” program for children with autism.
    4. Texts on Emotion Regulation and Social Skills for Individuals with ASD: Books that delve into strategies for identifying, understanding, and managing emotions, as well as navigating social situations.
    5. Resources on Visual Supports and Communication Strategies for Autism: Books and guides detailing the effective use of visual schedules, social stories, visual cue cards, and other visual aids.

    Relevant Academic Journals:

    1. Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders: A primary journal for research on autism, including clinical trials of interventions.
    2. Autism Research: Another key journal publishing high-quality research on autism spectrum conditions.
    3. Journal of Consulting and Clinical Psychology: Publishes research on psychological interventions, often including those adapted for specific populations.
    4. Cognitive and Behavioral Practice / Behavior Therapy: Journals focused on CBT principles and their application.

    Reputable Organizations:

    1. Autism Speaks: Provides information, resources, and supports research related to autism.
    2. Autism Society: Focuses on improving the lives of all affected by autism through advocacy, education, and support.
    3. National Autistic Society (UK): A leading UK charity providing information and support for autistic people and their families.
    4. Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies (ABCT): A professional organization for CBT therapists and researchers.

    General Search Terms for Academic Databases:

    When searching for specific papers, use combinations of these terms:

    1. “CBT Autism”
    2. “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy ASD”
    3. “Anxiety Autism Treatment”
    4. “Depression Autism Therapy”
    5. “Panic Attacks Autism”
    6. “Behaviour Cards Autism”
    7. “Visual Supports CBT Autism”
    8. “Emotion Regulation Autism”
    9. “Adolescents Autism Mental Health”
    10. “Child Autism CBT”

    Further develops the topic of the CBT approach to treating panic attacks, anxiety, and depression in autistic children and adolescents.

    The challenges faced by autistic children and adolescents often extend beyond the core characteristics of autism itself. They are at a significantly higher risk of developing co-occurring mental health conditions such as panic attacks, anxiety disorders, and depression. This heightened vulnerability can be attributed to several factors, including difficulties with social communication, sensory sensitivities, challenges with routines and unexpected changes, and the sheer effort involved in navigating a world primarily designed for neurotypical individuals.

    Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), when appropriately adapted, has emerged as a leading evidence-based intervention for these co-occurring conditions in autistic youth. It offers a structured and skills-based approach that resonates well with the learning styles of many individuals on the spectrum.

    Adapting CBT for Autistic Children and Adolescents

    Effective CBT for autistic youth isn’t a one-size-fits-all solution; it requires significant adaptations to address their unique cognitive and developmental profiles. Key modifications include:

    1. Emphasis on Visual Supports:
    2. Visual Schedules: Providing a clear visual representation of the therapy session (e.g., “Hello,” “Review Homework,” “New Skill,” “Practice,” “Homework,” “Goodbye”) reduces anxiety about unpredictability.
    3. Emotion Scales/Thermos: Using visual scales (e.g., a “feelings thermometer” from 0 to 10) helps children quantify and communicate the intensity of their emotions, which can be challenging to verbalize.
    4. Social Stories and Comic Strip Conversations: These tools are excellent for breaking down complex social situations, explaining expected behaviors, and helping to understand the perspectives of others, which is crucial for managing social anxiety.
    5. Behaviour Cards: As discussed, these act as concrete reminders for coping strategies (e.g., a card showing a deep breath, a “take a break” card, or a card with a social cue like “wait for my turn”).
    6. Concrete and Direct Language:
    7. Avoiding Metaphors and Idioms: Abstract language can be confusing. Therapists use clear, literal language to explain concepts like “thoughts,” “feelings,” and “behaviors.”
    8. Breaking Down Concepts: Complex CBT concepts (e.g., cognitive distortions) are broken into smaller, more manageable parts, often using simplified language and visual examples.
    9. Incorporating Special Interests:
    10. Enhanced Engagement: Leveraging a child’s special interest (e.g., dinosaurs, Minecraft, trains) can make therapy more engaging and relatable. Examples can be tailored to their interest, and rewards can be linked to it.
    11. Motivation and Rapport: Discussing preferred interests at the beginning of sessions can help build rapport and create a safe, comfortable environment.
    12. Flexible and Patient Approach:
    13. Increased Processing Time: Autistic individuals may need more time to process information and formulate responses. Therapists allow for pauses and avoid rushing.
    14. Sensory Accommodations: Creating a sensory-friendly environment (e.g., dimming lights, providing fidgets, allowing movement breaks) can help reduce sensory overload, a common trigger for anxiety and meltdowns.
    15. Parent/Caregiver Involvement:
    16. Psychoeducation: Parents and caregivers receive extensive education about autism, anxiety, depression, and CBT principles to support skill generalization at home and school.
    17. Skill Practice: They are actively involved in practicing skills learned in therapy, creating a consistent environment for the child to apply new strategies.
    18. Collaboration: Working as a team with parents, educators, and other professionals ensures a cohesive approach to supporting the child.

    CBT for Panic Attacks in Autistic Youth

    Panic attacks are sudden, intense surges of fear that can be particularly distressing for autistic individuals due to sensory sensitivities and challenges with interoception (perceiving internal bodily states). CBT addresses panic attacks through:

    1. Psychoeducation: Explaining what a panic attack is (a false alarm from the body, not a sign of danger), including common physical sensations (racing heart, shortness of breath, dizziness) and their non-threatening nature. Visuals like a “panic attack thermometer” can illustrate the escalation of symptoms.
    2. Breathing Retraining: Teaching controlled, diaphragmatic breathing techniques is crucial. Visual cues (e.g., “smell the flower, blow out the candle,” or a visual timer for inhale/exhale) are often used to guide the child.
    3. Cognitive Restructuring: Helping children identify and challenge catastrophic thoughts associated with panic (e.g., “I’m having a heart attack,” “I’m going to die,” “I’m going crazy”). This might involve using behaviour cards with reframing statements like “This feeling will pass” or “I am safe.”
    4. Exposure Therapy: Gradually exposing the child to feared situations or bodily sensations that trigger panic, in a controlled and supportive environment. This “stepladder” approach helps habituate the child to the discomfort and realize it’s manageable. For example, if a racing heart is a trigger, the child might practice running in place to intentionally induce a fast heart rate, learning to tolerate the sensation.

    CBT for Anxiety in Autistic Youth

    Generalized anxiety, social anxiety, and phobias are common in autistic children. Adapted CBT tackles these with:

    1. Emotion Recognition and Regulation: Many autistic children struggle to identify and label their emotions. CBT works on building emotional literacy through visual aids, emotion cards, and practice scenarios.
    2. Identifying Triggers: Helping the child and family identify specific situations, sensory inputs, or changes in routine that trigger anxiety. Creating “anxiety trigger lists” or visual maps can be helpful.
    3. Coping Skills Development: Teaching a repertoire of coping strategies, often on behaviour cards:
    4. Sensory Strategies: Deep pressure, fidget toys, sensory breaks, “sensory toolbox.”
    5. Relaxation Techniques: Progressive muscle relaxation, guided imagery (often using scripts tailored to special interests).
    6. Problem-Solving Skills: Breaking down overwhelming problems into smaller, manageable steps, using visual flowcharts.
    7. Exposure and Response Prevention (ERP): For phobias or obsessive-compulsive tendencies, gradual exposure to feared objects or situations, coupled with preventing avoidance or rituals, is highly effective. This is carefully planned and implemented with strong visual support.

    CBT for Depression in Autistic Youth

    Depression in autistic children and adolescents can present differently than in neurotypical peers, sometimes manifesting as increased irritability, stimming, withdrawal, or difficulty engaging in preferred activities. CBT for depression in this population focuses on:

    1. Behavioral Activation: Helping the child engage in activities that are enjoyable or provide a sense of accomplishment, even when they don’t feel motivated. This often involves creating structured visual schedules of activities.
    2. Cognitive Restructuring: Addressing negative thought patterns common in depression (e.g., “I’m a failure,” “No one likes me,” “Things will never get better”). This involves:
    3. Thought Records: Simplified visual templates for recording negative thoughts, identifying emotions, and challenging the thoughts with alternative, more balanced perspectives.
    4. “Thinking Traps” Cards: Visual representations of common cognitive distortions (e.g., “all-or-nothing thinking,” “catastrophizing”) with examples relevant to the child’s life.
    5. Social Skills Training: Since social isolation can contribute to depression, CBT may incorporate targeted social skills training, using role-playing, video modeling, and social stories to improve communication and interaction.
    6. Self-Monitoring: Encouraging the child to track their mood, energy levels, and engagement in activities using visual charts or apps. This helps them recognize patterns and the impact of their behaviors.
    7. Mindfulness and Self-Compassion: Adapting mindfulness exercises to be concrete and less abstract, focusing on sensory awareness in the present moment, and fostering self-kindness.

    Conclusion

    CBT, when thoughtfully and flexibly adapted, is a powerful tool in addressing panic attacks, anxiety, and depression in autistic children and adolescents. The judicious use of visual aids, concrete language, personalized examples, and a strong collaborative approach with families are crucial for success. By empowering autistic youth with practical strategies to understand and manage their internal experiences, CBT not only alleviates distressing symptoms but also fosters greater emotional regulation, independence, and overall well-being, enabling them to navigate the complexities of life with increased confidence.

  • The Rational Living Therapy Certification Process

    The Rational Living Therapy Certification Process

    Prerequisites: A graduate degree in a mental health discipline or current enrollment in a mental health graduate program.

    What is Rational Living Therapy?

    Rational Living Therapy is a very systematic approach to cognitive-behavioral therapy, which means that the Rational Living Therapist knows where he or she is at any given point in the process of therapy.

    Rational Living Therapy emphasizes both therapist skills and client rational self-counseling skills. Rational Living Therapy emphasizes Dr. Aldo Pucci’s belief that any approach to counseling or psychotherapy that emphasizes instruction becomes a “sales job.” The clinician has something to sell the client (the philosophy and techniques of rational self-counseling) and is hoping that the client will “buy” it. For that reason, Rational Living Therapy utilizes powerful persuasive techniques techniques to help decrease conscious resistance to the therapist’s suggestion of success in therapy.

    Rational Living Therapy is highly motivational. If you dislike giving up on clients, and wish that there were some way to encourage any client to make changes, Rational Living Therapy is ideal for you. It is designed to tap into the client’s desires by utilizing Rational Motivational Interviewing techniques.

    Rational Living Therapy is very instructive. The instructive nature of RLT helps produce long-term results for the client.

    Rational Living Therapy also focuses on underlying assumptions. By doing so, therapy is much “deeper” thus making the results more long-term.

    Rational Living Therapists are very concerned with irrational labeling. For this reason, we disagree with the labeling that results from mental health professionals’ use of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) of Mental Disorders. Many of these “diagnoses” actually are only labels for a set of behaviors. However, these labels often create a perception that the client “has” or “suffers from” a “disorder.” This perception can become very problematic for the client, leading to a great deal of hopelessness. Rational Living Therapists help clients avoid irrational labeling and hopelessness.

    Rational Living Therapy takes the best of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy, Rational Behavior Therapy, and Cognitive Therapy and integrates knowledge and research findings in the areas of cognitive development, learning theory, general semantics, brain functioning, social psychology and perception, and linguistics. Rational Living Therapy takes advantage of special brain states to facilitate learning and progress.

    Rational Living Therapy also rejects the common concepts of self-esteem and self-confidence, and also departs from the traditional CBT emphasis of “self-acceptance.” RTL’s replacement to these concepts (the “Four A’s”) is much more practical and useful.

    The Certification Process

    The entire certification process can be completed via home study. You may order each level separately, or order this package and receive a significant discount.

    The RLT certification process requires the completion of four training levels and a practicum. The practicum can be completed via telephone consultation.

    Included with each RLT home study program level is an examination. You simply listen to the audio included with each level and complete the exam as you listen to the lecture. The levels must be completed in numerical order (One – Four).

    The practicum involves 6 months (24 sessions) of weekly 30-minute telephone or Zoom consultations. The trainee presents cases in which RLT is being implemented, and Dr. Pucci provides feedback in terms of the trainee’s use of RLT. The fee for each 30 minute supervision session is $25.

    Once all levels and the practicum have been completed, the trainee receives the “Certified Rational Living Therapist” credential. This designation also fulfills the training requirement for the “Diplomate in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy” credential provided by the National Association of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapists.

    The Training Levels

    1. RLT Level-One

    (https://cbtonlinetraining.com/cbt-certification-rational-living-therapy-level-one-certification-webinar/)

    Introduction to Rational Living Therapy

    — Theoretical Basis of RLT, Including Evidence Supporting It

    — Theory of Emotions and Behavior (Both “Healthy” and Maladaptive)

    — Complete Presentation of the Entire Process of Therapy, from Assessment to Termination

    Dealing with Resistance

    — Complete Review of the Many Ways in Which Clients Can Have Difficulty

    Benefiting from Therapy and how Resistance is Treated in RLT

    Introduction to the Treatment of Specific Problem Areas, Such as Depression, Suicide, Anxiety, Substance Abuse, Bipolar Disorder, and Schizophrenia.

    Introduction to Group Therapy

    2. RLT Level-Two

    ( https://cbtonlinetraining.com/cbt-certification-rational-living-therapy-level-two-certification-webinar/ )

    Treatment of “Personality Disorders”, from engagement to treatment and termination.

    Advanced “Underlying Assumption / Core Belief” Therapy

    Advanced Cognitive Modification Skills

    Application to Mood / Anxiety Disorders

    Group Therapy

    3. RLT Level-Three

    ( https://cbtonlinetraining.com/cbt-certification-rational-living-therapy-level-three-certification-webinar/ )

    Very Comprehensive approach to Marital Therapy, from assessment to termination

    Substance Abuse Treatment

    Treatment of Children

    4. RLT Level-Four

    ( https://cbtonlinetraining.com/cbt-certification-rational-living-therapy-level-four-certification-webinar/ )

    Comprehensive Review of the Rational Living Therapy Therapeutic Process

    Dr. Pucci reviews, with great detail, the step-by-step RLT therapeutic process, as well as describing how to prevent potential problems and to correct already established problems / therapeutic resistance.

    Teaching Important RLT Therapeutic Concepts

    Dr. Pucci provides participants the opportunity to present how they would teach important concepts, like the ABCs of Emotions, Irrational Shoulds, and the Confusion of Needs and Wants. Then listen as he provides feedback and helps the participants fine tune their approach.

    Recognizing the Top 40 Shoulds that Disturb People

    Listen as Dr. Pucci teaches participants how to recognize and correct the top 40 irrational shoulds and musts and create an entitlement mentality and create significant disturbance.

    Develop New Rational Replacement Thoughts

    Learn with great detail how to use the continuum of thought change and the Successive Approximations of Thought Acquisition techniques to help clients replace irrational thoughts with new, rational thoughts.

  • Ask Dr. Pucci

    Ask Dr. Pucci

    Please feel free to submit questions to me concerning cognitive-behavioral therapy and mental health, and I’ll do my best to answer them. Use the form below. Additionally, below are questions from website visitors, along with my answers.

    I am Dr. ALDO R. PUCCI, and I am President of the National Association of Cognitive-Behavioral Therapists. I was trained in Rational Behavior Therapy by its originator, internationally acclaimed psychiatrist Maxie C. Maultsby, Jr., MD.  I then went on to develop my own form of CBT known as “Rational Living Therapy.” Thankfully, I trained thousands of mental health clinicians and presented my workshops and certification seminars on Rational Living Therapy and Rational Hypnotherapy throughout the United States. I have been blessed in that my seminars have received rave reviews. I hold the titles of Diplomate in Psychotherapy (The International Academy of Behavioral Medicine, Counseling and Psychotherapy), Diplomate in Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (NACBT), Certified Medical Hypnotherapist (Institute of Medical Hypnosis), and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist (National Board for Hypnotherapy and Hypnotic Anesthesiology). I am the author of many articles and two books, The Client’s Guide to Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy and Feel the Way You Want to Feel…No Matter What!

    Question: Dr. Pucci, how can I get control over my emotions? –J.M.

    Dr. Pucci’s Answer: Hello, J.M. Thank you for your question. Unless there is something wrong with those parts of our body that are responsible for our emotional and behavioral control, we are always in control of our emotions and behaviors. Sometimes we control ourselves rationally, while at other times we control ourselves irrationally. We control our emotions and behaviors by our thoughts. Our thinking causes our feelings and behaviors. I suspect that what you really want is to know how to consistently, intentionally rationally counsel yourself. A good cognitive-behavioral therapist can help you learn rational self-counseling. You may also find my book, Feel the Way You Want to Feel…No Matter What! helpful. Also, if you have not already done so, be certin to take that Rational Thinking Questionnaire ( https://rationalthinkingscore.com/rational-thinking-score-quiz/ ) I wish you well.

    All responses to questions are for educational purposes only and are not to be used as a substitute for counseling, psychotherapy, or mental health treatment.