By Dr, Aldo Pucci
People often act as if they believe they have a need to be liked. They demonstrate that belief by making themselves miserable when someone does not like them or when someone has something negative to say about them. While being liked might be needed for some specific purpose (like to win a popularity contest), our survival obviously does not depend on it.
Furthermore, often times not being liked is not even a problem for us, we only think that it is. For example, if someone dislikes me who is irrelevant to my life and my goals, their disliking me is not even a problem for me let alone something that is horrible or catastrophic. So if it is not a problem, there is not much point to even spend much time thinking about their disapproval. Who cares? It is irrelevant.
But people have been brainwashed into thinking that they must have everyone’s approval and that it is a catastrophe if someone does not. It’s time to get over that nonsense. Some people matter much more to you than others do. Some people, if they acted on their negative opinions of you, will have a greater impact on your life and your goals. But even with that, there is no need to make yourself miserable over the results of their acting on their opinions, if they do.
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